What Not to Say When Buying a Home


Buying a home can be an exciting thing. Often, your emotions will be running pretty high—especially when you find some houses that you really like! This can make it tempting to blurt out the first thing that comes to your head, to be effusive in your praise of a particular property. And that’s fine when you’re in private—but if you’re speaking with the seller or with the seller’s agent, discretion is key.

In fact, there are a few things you just shouldn’t say when buying a home—not that they are bad or even wrong; they’re just better kept to yourself. We’ll give you a few examples of what we mean.

Buying a House: What NOT to Say

“This house is my DREAM house!” Hopefully you will find your dream house, and it’s okay to say that to your family members or to your agent. With anyone else, though, it’s better to play things close to the vest. Put on your poker face so the seller doesn’t try to wring more money out of you.

“My maximum budget for a new home is ______.” It’s very smart to know how much you can spend, and to be candid with your real estate agent—but again, if you’re looking to negotiate a fair price, this is the kind of information you’ll want to keep to yourself.

“I can’t wait to knock down that wall/ repaint that house/ expand this deck/ etc.” It’s great to have short-term and long-term home improvement projects, but if the seller has strong sentimental attachment to the home, this may actually be upsetting, and make the seller more hesitant to part ways with the property.

“That couch/ painting/ rug/ color scheme is awful!” You’re welcome to dislike some of the seller’s home decorating decisions, but there’s no need to be mean or critical about it. Don’t muddy the waters of your professional relationship by making unnecessary remarks like these.

“Why are you selling the place?” To be totally blunt, this just isn’t any of your business! We all get curious about such things, but the rationale may be something rather personal and rather painful, like the loss of a job, a divorce, etc.

“I’ll buy this house for [extremely, unreasonably low price].” This is a huge mistake: Lowballing your seller may mean they toss out your offer and don’t accept any further from you, which means you could lose your shot at the house. When it comes to making an offer, always lean on the advice of your agent, who knows what prices are really fair and which ones are simply silly.

Of course, you should be doing most of your communication with the seller through your agent, which makes it all the more important that you find an agent you can trust. If you’re looking for a skilled agent in the Huntersville or Cornelius area, we invite you to contact the Minges Cline team. We’d love to be your trusted advisors!